As a first time mom discipline is a very confusing thing. No matter what, I just don't now if what I am doing is right or wrong and other parents advice just never seems to fit with what I believe. With Positive discipline I have been able to better understand what discipline is and how it should be enforced. As this book mentions "true discipline guides, teaches and invites healthy behavior" (pg. 27). The discipline in this book is of the work of Alfred Adler and his colleague Rudolf Dreikers. The believe of what discipline means is usually punishment and that at an early age a child must learn that when you do something wrong there are consequences. while this believe is true, throughout the book you learn that certain actions in a baby/toddler just has to do with their age and understanding. What children really need is guidance and caring. This book explains things to you in great clarity. It helps you understand your child in a better way and makes you get at their level. It explains things in an emotional and psychological point of view, and how their growing brains develop. It goes into detail to help you better understand life situations were the outcome can be better. You read real life scenarios that fit with your everyday life, in which a lot of us can relate to.
My daughter is definitely in her terrible twos and when we go out in public I just don't know what else to do. She throws herself on the floor no matter were it is and just starts throwing a fit. I try talking to her, giving her stuff to entertain her with, and when I start to get frustrated I just end up telling her that if she doesn't stop I will spank her. Which at this point I'm just hoping she will understand and stop without me having to go through with it. With positive discipline I have been able to learn and see where my daughter is coming from and use new techniques that will lead to less frustration and a happier toddler and a happier mommy.
This book helps teach you:
- how to use nonpunitive methods but strict and caring ones
- how to effectively use time out
- better understand your child's perspective at this age
- better communicate with your child
- how to better avoid a bad scenario
- create a better relationship
- how to help them create a healthy behavior
- use new techniques with less frustration
- and provides you with great pinpoints to remember throughout
At the end of each chapter the book provides you with some questions to ask yourself to better reflect what you have learned. I would recommend this book to any parent because it does not only help you with your child your knowledge as a parent improves for a better relationship with your child. It doesn't matter if you are a first time parent or a repeated parent you can learn something new that you just didn't realize sooner. This book is so easy to understand and a great tool every parent should have.
* I received this book from blogging for books in return for a review. This will in no way interfere with my judgment and I will give my honest thoughts and opinions.
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